What We’re Reading: “Live Like a Fruit Fly”

Live Like a Fruit Fly

“In Live Like a Fruit Fly, Gabe Berman shares his recipe for living a more joyful,worthwhile, and abundant life in every way. A witty, entertaining, and insightful read.” ~Deepak Chopra

In his newly released book, native New Yorker Gabe Berman shares his engaging perspective about following our passions, staying present, and practicing active appreciation. Filled with insightful musings, humor, and stories everyone can relate to, Live Like a Fruit Fly will help you awaken to the joy and meaning available in every moment.


An interview with Gabe Berman

Why should we live like a fruit fly?
Gabe: Fruit flies usually die of old age within ten days of being born. Seizing the day is their
only option. Likewise, your tomorrows aren’t guaranteed either. You may have your
whole life ahead of you, but as you grow older, it seems as though less and less time
elapses between birthdays. If you haven’t felt this yet, you will.

Q: What prompted you to write the book?
Gabe: After college, I jumped from one sales job to another. Towards the end of my tenure of
trying to coax people into buying things they weren’t interested in, I hung up the phone
after a making a sales call and thought, “My life is too short for this. I can’t waste it. I
need to live like a fruit fly.”

Q: Your writing style is unusual for the self-help genre. It’s more conversational
and less dogmatic. Is there a reason for this?
Gabe: I’ve plowed through many books in the self-help, new age and eastern philosophy
sections and I don’t relate to writers who preach to me so I vowed not to do the same.
My goal was to sound like a trustworthy friend.

Q: Which authors have influenced you the most?
Gabe: On the spiritual side, there’s Neale Donald Walsch, Deepak Chopra, and U.S. Anderson.
I’ve also made plenty of room for J.D. Salinger, Kurt Vonnegut, and Hunter S.
Thompson. But it was a book I read as a kid that made me want to be a writer The Spy
in the Ointment
by Donald E. Westlake. In this spy novel, the main character speaks to
the reader in parenthesis as if he’s talking to the camera in a movie. My book is similar
but I’ve made myself the main character and all I do is talk to the camera.

Q: You sporadically quote others throughout your book. Can you pinpoint the one
that means the most to you?

Gabe: I used a quote from Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor E. Frankl. I believe life boils
down to the choices you make and I couldn’t have said it better than this, “We who lived
in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting
others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but
they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the
last of all human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances,
to choose one’s own way.”

Q: Although you mock yourself for doing so, you make a few references to the Star
Wars
movies. Care to comment on this?

Gabe: I grew up with Star Wars and thanks to the prequels, my young nephews are doing so as well.
As with Harry Potter, I believe people are so attracted to these stories because it shows how
one unassuming person can make such a difference. Luke Skywalker was just a farm
boy with a bad haircut who ends up saving the universe from evil. What’s there not to
love?

Q: You mention the events of 9/11 in the beginning of the book. It’s a significant
day for everyone but what does it mean to you?

Gabe: If 9/11 doesn’t show you how unpredictable life is, nothing will. All the planning and
all the worrying ended up meaning nothing for those people caught in the buildings that
day. We need to worry less and live more. We need to live for today.

Q: Do you have advice for aspiring writers?
Gabe: It’s the same advice I’d give to anyone who’s aspiring to do anything bold. You must
kick the first door open to have other doors open for you. It’s rare that the first door
opens without a bit of force. People are always telling me that they’d like to write a
book. But how many of them have actually started writing? Almost none. You need to
start writing if you want to be a writer. You need to start juggling if you want to be a
clown in the circus. It seems as if the Universe doesn’t budge from your desire alone.
It needs to see some action.

Q: Are you working on a new book?
Gabe: Yes, you can see it unfold at blog.livelikeafruitfly.com.

Read reviews of Live Like a Fruit Fly and order your copy at Amazon.

  1. I certainly love what Victor Frankl said – that no one can take away our freedom to choose our attitude in any circumstances. When Gabe says -” If 9/11 doesn’t show you how unpredictable life is, nothing will. All the planning and all the worrying ended up meaning nothing for those people caught in the buildings that day. We need to worry less and live more. We need to live for today.” – it’s a truth, one must constantly remember. Worry less and love more. Love today.
    We don’t know what tomorrow will bring ; whether we will be part of the show tomorrow; when we will drop out of tomorrows – we just don’t know.
    Today – must we live fully – loving more and worrying less.
    Thank you, Gabe

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  2. Initially, I thought this might be (yet another) book about mindfulness. Indeed, the oft-cited words from Victor Frankl resonate with the Buddhist message that, through cultivating awareness in the present moment, we can learn to choose thoughts and emotions that will minimize suffering. But, if the reviews on Amazon are any guide, it seems to be much lighter fare. And I’m not at all sure that I appreciate the breathless advice to seize the moment.

    Why not? For one thing, we must, as adults, plan for the future. If you are going to live each day as if it were your last, the tendency will be to discount future considerations heavily. On a macro level, that is part of what is so wrong with American politics: it is made with an eye on the here-and-now or, at best, the next election cycle; it is not based on what might be best for future generations of Americans as yet unborn. (And no, that was not a reference to the obnoxious abortion debate.)

    Practically speaking, some of the things we want to achieve in life take time. It took me eight years to become a U.S. citizen. I knew my wife at work for two years before we became romantically involved, and the timing was right. It has taken years to acquire certain skills – at work and beyond – that have enriched my life tremendously. Why bother making the effort to learn anything if your horizon extends no further than a few days? Why bother exercising or watching what you eat if you’re not concerned about the quality of life you’ll enjoy in the autumn of your years?

    I’m in this game for the long haul. Flies are just dead meat to be washed off the grille of my Mercedes, which is approaching 300,000 miles but still runs like a dream thanks to regular, forward-looking maintenance.

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  3. oh!! sorry!! great Mr!! very thank you !!

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  7. Gabe!

    I am in la la LOVE with Think Like A Fruit Fly! The title image alone immediately brings home the reminder: Carpe Diem!

    Sure, many of the points may sound familiar, but your view provides a whole new, refreshing perspective to the important messages of ‘be here now’ and ‘grateful for what IS working.’

    Thank you for having the courage to pursue your dream AND share the full expression of your divine self.

    Wishing you joy, love and laughter!

    Ande

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  8. I had been told to prevent the business all together due to the rejection. People would tell me, ‘Don’t you want to have a very normal job and a normal family?’ I guess that would be good advice for a lot of, however i wished to act.
    That which you actually learn, from the given pair of circumstances, determines whether we become increasingly powerless or more powerful.

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